Dont Hate-It Kills Careers!

I remember back in the day, I use to just simply love the game of football. See to get out of PE in high school, I was able to take stats football season. So learning and being able to keep up with the game and being on the sidelines made it all exciting. Being that I am a LA chick, I didn't really have a team that I rooted for every Sunday. I had players that I liked. Warren Sapp, and Charles Woodson was young and new. Peyton Manning too, prior to becoming a Colts fan, I liked him. When I met my husband one of the things we had in common was our love for the sport. I don't know if you all remember back in 2005, the Colts went #1 all season. They were the team to beat. But right before the post season started Tony Dungy's son committed suicide. Now my boyfriend at the time was already a bonified Steelers fan, and I kinda think he thought I would jump on the Steelers wagon because of him and the fact that I wasn't a fan of any team. However, It wasn't until December 2005 that I saw these players on a field become a Team. The Colts. I saw them come together. I saw them cry together. I saw them hurt together. At the point I became a fan of the Indianapolis Colts. To make my decision that much more sweet they came back after losing that first playoff game in the 2005/2006 season, to win the Super Bowl in 2007.

Over the years my husband has made it clear to me that if you're not for the Steelers, then fuck you. I didn't have that mentality till after he began attacking my beloved Colts. Then I hated every other team that wasn’t the Colts. No matter how great the players were or how great they played the game. It didn’t matter. Last season was especially hard for me and the hate really showed its face. I have since regrouped and now I’m focused on having a great team and winning games. I hope with all of the changes that has happen in the Colts organization ( they damn near replace the WHOLE staff) we will once again be #1 in the AFC and end the season with a Super Bowl ring.

One can’t be concerned about what the next team is doing or who likes them. All one needs to do is support they Team and ride for them. Once you try to minimize someone else’s success because you yourself are not having equal or better success. You in fact become a Hater! Maybe you aren’t winning because you’re so worried about what the next is doing and your craft is suffering. Your quality of work is lack luster and you are trying to prove something instead of just making moves from the heart. I heard someone say last week just shut the fuck up and take the L, because sometimes you have to let people have today so you can have tomorrow. I may not be talking about football, but hopefully the Haters will get it. If not you will continue to lose.

The Colts definitely took the L! Luck!

Pool Party Hardy!!

So The CaliRadio Pool party in Lynwood. So much to say, so little paper to write with. Now I won't go into all of the torrid details, I kinda want to address something that happen at the party. All of the CaliRadio team calls me booguie. I don't think of my self as the such or stuck up or any of the sorts. I like to think I'm easy going and can fit in almost any situation, with most kinds of people. Going to a pool party there are a 2 things you can pretty much guarantee. Water, and partying! Let me explain something to all the readers right now. Don't go to a "Pool Party" if you don't want to get wet. I didn't wear a swimsuit to the party. I didn't plan on getting in the pool. However, I did expect some splashage. And that's what I got. People running around, jumping in the pool. Having a good time. It sucks, that for one minute someone had to apologize for any of that behavior at a pool party. I had a whole drink spilled on me. Guess what? That's a partying/Clubbing hazard. It happens. There is no malice behind things like that happening. No need to get your panties in a bunch if someone bumps you. Or if you get thrown in a pool while walking around in a swimsuit at a damn pool party. Grow up and don't come ruining my buzz and fun being butt hurt because of something so stupid.

Everyone at the CaliRadio pool party was having a great time. plenty of liquor , Sky bought out the food for everyone, It was hot as hell. The perfect day for a pool party. Next time if you can't deal with that and just have fun, stay away.

Personal Responsibility

The most horrific senseless act ever I have ever seen. I honestly can’t put into words exactly how I feel for the victims of the tragedy that happen in Aurora, Co this past Friday. I’m just like hasn’t Colorado seen enough of this? I remember Columbine like it was yesterday, and I still think today that it could have easily been me. Sitting in class, minding my business like any other day, and in the blink of an eye gone. Just like Friday, it could have easily been me and my family.

If you haven’t figured out anything about me, the one thing you all should know is that human behavior fascinates me. The what’s, why’s, and how’s of the mind is interesting and have been researched since the beginning of time. Yet to be fully understood. I have so many questions about a person that just walks into a crowded space and opens fire. My number one question is if life was so bad to just throw it away like he did, why didn’t he just kill himself? Maybe he wanted more then to just lay down and die. He wanted to make a statement. He wanted notoriety. He wanted to be remembered. And he will be. I doubt that anyone in my life time will forget what happen on Friday. Listing on paper the characteristics of this person up until Fridays assault, my ability to separate logic from emotions would have been hard. Showing empathy for him would have been easy for me. Even for the people in my own personal life that display that “Loner” behavior, I kinda feel bad coming from a place where I have friends, and successful relationships, and I am able to enjoy my being. I know some people that don’t. To come to the realization at any stage in life that you have no one or nothing. Even more traumatizing to realize that it’s your own personal fault for this has to be the breaking point. Imagine what that does to a person’s spirit.


With all of that being said any ounce of empathy goes away with the fact that this person does not seek any help. I’m sure that this isn’t the first sign of this type of potential behavior. I know its people looking at news reports and articles on this right now and are not surprised. His mother wasn’t. This guy is 24. Should his parents be blamed as well? Should the establishment that sold him the guns hold any kind of responsibility? I mean it’s harder for me to get a box Sudafed. At the end of the day we all have to take stock in our personal responsibility. We all have choices to make in life. Right and wrong are ever clear and present. Help is always there. If you can see the thought, the preparation, the presentation, and the outcome, it is your personal responsibility to seek help.

On behave of Caliradio, our thoughts and prayers are with the victims and their families of the Aurora, Co shootings.

Man Up!

I apologize to my CaliRadio blog readers. I had a bit of an accident this weekend and sprained my ankle. So a blog post was the last thing on my agenda. I thank GOD that my CaliRadio bosses (That aren’t really the boss of me LOL ) are understanding enough. So Any Who!

So I wanted to talk about a little trend that’s been going on these past couple of weeks. The videos of fights being posted to all these blog sites. Now I know that this isn’t something new. Idiots posting fights on the internet have been happening since what seems like the beginning of time (Internet/Cell Phone posting time - circa 2002). The thing with this is that we are getting more and more of this many guys vs. 1. The thing that pisses me off is that these guys that have these cameras readily available and quick to condone and post this behavior online think it’s cool. Hear me and hear me clearly – It’s NOT! It makes you look weak and cowardly. If you are a man and can’t catch a fade, you are a sucka and I want no parts of you. If you are a man and cant approach another man and tell him your beef to his face, instead you and 5 of you boys ambush him and have the nerve to brag by posting online, that’s some punk shit. And most importantly nothing to brag about Boo. I feel the same about a chick or subliminals on Twitter and Facebook or whatever don’t cut it. Be big enough to approach the situation like a grown ass person.

Check this out, I say what I say and I mean it. I am not going to back down from how I feel about anything. I may be a lot of things but being fake isn’t one of them. So Fuck yo feelings. They are the last thing I worry about. We can simply agree to disagree. So dudes, stop being a bitch, put the camera down, and if you have a issue with someone standup as a real man should and tell them. If it comes to blows, let it be. Cause if you really that hood and from the streets, you know what that life is. There is no reason to try to embarrass anyone by taping yo home boys jumping them. You only embarrass yourself.

Hide and Seek

So I hope everyone had a blast on the 4th of July! And if you had a vacation or just a simple day off of work, I hope you enjoyed it to the fullest. I had a party to work. Which was not really work. Since I loved it. It got me to thinking that now more than ever, this is what I am meant to be doing with my life. It’s funny because the more I realize this about myself, I’m starting to see this in the people around me. If ya’ll don’t think that Hugs was born to cuss people out, something is wrong with you. LOL No I don’t think that the starts align, and fireworks go off, and you have this light bulb moment when you realize it. I think that it’s always been there. It’s always been inside you. Some people know sooner than others. Look at me, it took me almost 30 years of doing something that I had been doing forever to know that this is it. My dad told me that it took him 35 years. DJ Cali Slimm has been DJ’n since he was a teenager. Granted it doesn’t always turn out great. There’s only 1 Beyonce who can take a something as simple as singing a song and make it great. 1 Kobe that can take shooting a ball and make it great, or 1 Martha Stewart who can take planning a dinner menu and make it great. Not saying you can’t be great and be rewarded for whatever your passion is, but that shouldn’t be your main focus. It should be to be happy. To be fulfilled with the endless possibilities of joy. To be able to say I will do this to the day I die and love every minute of it. I feel that you do yourself a disservice and won’t live to your full potential if you are doing anything less than what makes you happy. I would hate to see my CaliRadio family if there were no CaliRadio.

Do me a favor this week. Step back from life, reflect and ask yourself, is this what I am meant to do with my life. Happiness isn’t given to you. It's hidden in all kinds of pockets of your life. You have to seek it out and hold on to it.

Reality TV for Me!

Hello All hope everyone is having an amazing first weekend of Summer. My first weekend has been spent working on a few event projects I have going on. But I have been looking forward to watching my Summer shows. I know I’m not the only one that has Summer shows. Like True Blood, and Weeds. I’m not a really huge fan of reality shows. However I’ll watch the first episode then pretty much lose interest after that. Not into Basket Ball Wives, or Mob Wives. I sorta watched Love and Hip Hop the first season because I like Mashonda, and I would see her on Twitter pop off on Alicia Keys a lot so I wanted to see if that would carry over into the show. I try to follow my Bravo Housewives, and being honest it’s fun to see the older white ladies go crazy on TV. So I will tune in if I see a preview or catch up on the weekend. I did tune in to Love and Hip Hop Atlanta this past Monday. The one thing that got me interested in the show was Stevie J. If you grew up during the 90s you should know who that is. If you still don’t know, go back to some of your old favorite songs from back then, I guarantee he produced at least a few. He also use to date one of my favorite rappers Eve, and I wouldn’t be doing my gossiply duties if I didn’t throw in that allegedly they have a sex tape. I just wanted to see where and how he was going to fit into the show. Turns out his baby mama is on the show. So I say to myself this might make for interesting TV as long as it’s not 35 year old black chicks fighting in the middle of upscale hotel bar, I can’t stomach it.

I haven’t been this entertained since the first season of the Flavor of Love! LMAO all because of the great Mama Dee. I have a fondness for someone that’s honest and raw and has the uncanny ability to say what they feel to whoever with no remorse. I can appreciate that. The loyalty she has for her son is respectable. The sheer hoodness of her, is my family projected on a TV screen. Now I don’t have a female pimp in my family, but I get it. The one thing that is going to keep me watching is the fact that every cast member is not stupid dumb over some guy. The dynamic of lil Scrappy and his baby mothers relationship is interesting because with most reality TV shows you see the women running behind some man and letting these men dog them and disrespect them on TV. Whereas with this situation you see the aftermath of cheating and game playing. You get to see both sides of the reconciliation. The man wanting to admit his mistakes and the woman wanting to try but can really trust. That’s not a story line I’ve seen before on TV. Don’t get me wrong, I know that the Stevie J and his baby mother and side chick (or dude according to some people) is what has every one talking. I just think it’s a little redundant to see a guy completely not commit to what they say is love and for the woman to still stick around and try to convince him to commit. Or guilt him into it. I’ve seen that show before. Too many times. On TV and in my own personal life. Not really interested in seeing it again. But the jokes about them are funny. LOL I’ll be watching.

This is a Mans world, But!

I hope everyone is having an amazing weekend. I am totally getting my HGTV on. Actually for the past couple of weekends I’ve patched, sanded, and painted at home. I like making things pretty. Other people in my house don’t seem to want to help. My husband asked how long would it take me to complete everything I wanted to do there, cause he’ll go on a trip and come back when it’s all done. After I told him that if I can’t find a TV stand that I liked, I am gonna remix the one we currently have. It’s funny to me how the dynamics of gender roles have changed in the last 30 years. In a lot of households the women are the bread winners. Especially in the last 10 years that number has gone up by like 20%. What was once considered “women’s work” like teaching, nursing, office admin, even domestic work all have a increased male presence in recent years. I have to admit myself, I do look at men a certain way that don’t work with their hands. My mom calls them “Rang Watch Niggas”. If you’re a man that wears a ring other than a wedding ring, yeah I judge. Bracelets, yeah I judge. I can’t help it. I so shouldn’t and I apologize. I just think that men, especially men with kids should have a little rough and tumble in them. I have learned that some men just aren’t like that. And you know what, that’s ok. We are not the Cleavers or the Huxtables. And that doesn’t make you less than because you don’t or can’t build a house from the foundation up or hang a picture. Conforming to what tradition says is no longer a factor in the world today. As much as the media wants us to think so. It isn’t.

My point is you are who you are. You like what you like. Some women want to have their man at home. Some men will only go to a full service gas station. In 2012 we have long left behind the “Traditional” gender roles. Family roles and relationships are what works for us now. Most of us come from a blended family. Or a home where the roles of the parents are nontraditional. I watched a documentary this weekend called ‘The other F word’. It’s about the conformity of members of rock bands that came along in the 90’s and are still together today. You know most music rap or rock is about rebellion, and going against the establishment, and bringing current situations to us, and not falling in line with society. Which is what a lot of the music produced in that era is about. Now the same people that was screaming Fuck the police on a record are the same ones mingling with the officers at PTA meetings and being stay at home dads. I found myself not judging, but it seemed endearing. I guess that’s part of me evolving and growing and seeing a man for a man. Certain things do make a man less of a man, it’s just I realize that not being quote on quote manly is not at all one of them.

I hope all my fellas are having a Happy Fathers day.

Oh and ladies I don’t care how much you do it alone with no help at all. Let’s not take away from the men that are up front and present in their children’s lives. You are not a man. You had Mothers day.